Social network vs Ramadan

Assalamualaikum!

Well, I believe that everyone is aware that Ramadan is the holy month of the year, and it's for us to get ourselves closer to the Creator. The month that's full of blessings, forgiveness and love from the Almighty. Since it is only once a year, which is only 30 out of 365 days, we should be able to make the best out of it. We should give thanks to Him for bringing us towards Ramadan every year, as long as we shall live.

But that's not my main point here. As we all know,  bila masuk bulan Ramadan ni, all our activities that we used to do during the other months should be put on hold. Eg ; watching movies, listening to lagha musics, sleep etc. As well as bashing, backbiting, judging and more. I just think that those things should be stopped instead of putting them on hold though. Because they all started from the social sites, so I get a bit scared to open my twitter, ask.fm and instagram knowing that those things are still there despite of this holy month. So in this 30 days, I am trying to lessen down the scrolling and updating on twitter, because 1. there are still many negative things that I try to avoid myself from getting into and 2. twitter can be so addictive that sometimes you can be on it for hours. 

I've deleted my ask.fm for the second time and I guess the final time. Haha. I don't think I would get myself an account anymore. Because I think it's just a pure distraction instead of being beneficial. One more thing, I would prefer to be on tumblr instead of twitter. I don't know why but I've always loved tumblr. Tumblr has waaaay lesser dramas and negativity. You can actually find peace on tumblr looking at the beautiful photos. But I'm not gonna deny that there are obscene pics on tumblr that you couldn't run from it. Bila come across those pics, I would just scroll the dashboard laju laju je hahaha. Not gonna lie but I can stay on tumblr for an hour without closing the app. 

It's not wrong for us to continue socializing in Ramadan, but it depends on how we are socializing. If the way is right, then I don't see any reason why we should stop. But when we do it wrong, we'll have to think of a way to tone it down a bit. At least for 30 days right? There's no harm in trying, instead we'll get a reward for our efforts. In sha Allah...

Till then, xx

PS : Planning to do a checklist and share it on blog later 

Of losing my photos on google+

Assalamualaikum & good morning everyone!

It's 2nd Ramadan today & I hope everyone is enjoying this holy month ever. Well I'm here in my room, mum and sisters had just gone out for school and work. I hope I don't fall asleep in 5 mins. Lol

So the other day, I went through the photo gallery on my phone, the album title was "auto-backup", it's been a while that I've been trying to delete some of the photos in that album because it contains free-haired pics of me and my girlfriends. But, I couldn't delete them. There's no delete button when I clicked at the photos. Not until that particular day, I went through the app photos on my phone, and suddenly I knew that the pics CAN be deleted. So without having any thoughts and contemplation, I deleted everything in that album. I was like so contented that I finally managed to get rid of those photos. I knew at first that those photos are on my google+, but I thought I would still have it here, on blog. I thought it won't disrupt anything that I've posted here.

But little did I know, when I logged into blogger yesterday, I saw my profile photo wasn't there anymore. When I looked through my entries that have pics in them, they were also gone. And suddenly it hit me, "omg I deleted everything on google+ and now everything is gone!!!!" I was shocked knowing that the photos I've posted were also gone. Why google+ why.... So here I wanna apologize if you ever see my blog entries that have photos but you can't see them. It's because I didn't know it will turn this way. I ranted about it on twitter, and someone said to me if I set it to auto-backup I can get those photos back. But unfortunately I've turned it off because I don't want my photos to be backed up. Nanti semak. Takpe lah, at least I learnt from my mistake, didn't I?

Next time kena fikir dulu if I wanna delete anything, on google+ especially. Never knew that google+ can make me so miserable. Haha.

Till then, happy fasting! xx

A Life changing, it is

“الله، أنا تعبت من فقدان 

أدعو لك بإرسال ملاكا أسفل 

ليأتي ويغير مجرى حياتي حول

Allah, I am tired of losing,

I pray you send an angel down,
To come and change my life around.”

I'm hoping.

I'm waiting.

I'm praying.

I never lose hope in Allah. Never in a million years would I do that. "Allah itu sentiasa ada." Yes I believe in that sentence. He would never leave us alone in misery, because I know, if I ask, He would help. 

"Jangan buruk sangka pada Allah." He is the owner of hearts. He knows what's the best for our hearts. He should be the One occupying our hearts, not anyone else. Put Him first before anything else, and He will put you first. He will never break His promises. Not ever.

Ramadan already??

Assalamualaikum!

I'm still in awe that it's finally 1st of Ramadan like wait a minute, wasn't it just Sha'ban yesterday? Wow, like wow wow! Ramadan is hereeeee, so yayyyyyy!

Alhamdulillah for another chance to meet Ramadan once again, ya Allah. This golden chance that we never know we would get it again next year. May this be the last Ramadan for me, I hope Allah will accept every single deed that I do throughout this whole month. Amiiin. I want to wish happy Ramadan Mubarak to all my wonderful readers, happy fasting everyone! May Allah's blessings be near us always. In sha Allah...

Sharing some thoughts

Assalamualaikum!

I'm sure that each and every one of us has our own fav TV shows right? But are talkshows & reality shows about Islam are in the list too? I hope it's a yes. For me, I loooove watching those Islamic programme on Oasis & TV Alhijrah. Not to say I'm a saint or something, but I'd like to share something very very beneficial to those who are still in the dark abt this matter.

Last Sunday, I watched a show on Oasis titled 'Musykil Muslimah'. I'm starting to love this show after watching three consecutive episodes. The show is aired every Sunday at 0730 p.m. Imma make sure that I don't miss any of the episodes now that I'm loving the show. Ok so last Sunday, the topic was 'salam jaga air muka'. Haa I know some of us dah terror and jelas abt this thing, but some are still blur and clueless. Same goes with me, I still don't know how to refuse when an ajnabi put out his hand for me to salam. I'll be like "???? should I or should I not?" But eventually I'll salam them IF they are my uncles. Other than them, I'm so sorry. But after watching that episodes, I feel so sinful that it's  actually still haram to salam uncles or grandad or whoever yg bukan mahram kita. Sentap habis lah masa tu. Rasa mcm "ya Allah...berdosanya aku" tp yelah, kita tak tahu kan. We love and respect them just like our own father. But no it's actually still prohibited. Regardless of who you think they are to you. If he's not blood related to you, then it's haram.

Anyways, salam jaga air muka ni jd harus bila kita bersalam dgn bukan mahram tp berlapik. But but, it can't be for long. Just for a few seconds, just for the sake of salam je. Haa gitu. See the difference kan? Ada one girl ni tnya satu soalan, and the question was kinda funny. But I know I was being mean. For me, I know the answer is obviously haram but maybe she's just confused kan. So she asked "boleh ke kita salam someone yg kita dah anggap abang or kakak sndiri?" Haaa for us we know mmg tak boleh kan. But maybe she just wanted a clear explanation abt it. So the ustaz said "hukumnya ttp haram walaupun kita dah anggap mcm adik beradik sndiri. Khinzir klau kita warnakan dia takkan mnjadi halal. Dia ttp juga khinzir".

Even though kita salam someone to just to show respect je, not more than that, pun tak boleh juga. According to that ustaz, ada bnyk cara lain untuk kita tnjukkan rasa hormat pada seseorang & to salam them is NOT one of the ways. Lg lah rase sentap. Haha. Instead, we can give salam to them and smile. That's enough. Right now, in this modern world, nak shake hands ni mcm satu kemestian bila jumpa org kan. Yup,  that's the perception yg kita kena tukar. Nak tukar perception itulah cabaran yg sebenar benarnya.  Bcs people are so used to shake hands nowadays. In Sha Allah if our intention is good, Allah will give ways to us. Amiiiin

Haa last but not least, episode salam jaga air muka ni episode 4 if I'm not mistaken. Cuba cari dkt YouTube ok? Totally worth watching. Hehe

Till then, xx

A boring day, again

Assalamualaikum!

How's everyone doing? I hope everyone's fine. Well, I am here lying in the hall with nothing to do, just waiting for iftar hehehe. It's a new week with the same routine, but Ramadan is approaching. Really soon.

I am somehow thrilled for Ramadan because I miss it so much. It only comes once a year, so let's hope this is not our last Ramadan alright? Amiin ya Rabb. Talking about Ramadan, I would like to urge everyone especially the girls to really make this month a worthy of all months by doing the best that we can.

Let us give the best from the very bottom of our hearts to make it a meaningful one. Like I said, this holy month only comes once in a year, so why not we take as much benefit as we can this year? Death doesn't wait, no? Who knows we aren't able to meet Ramadan again next year. Being in the last Ramadan (I hope not), we have to make it very special and meaningful. 

In Sha Allah, with every sincere effort and hard work we put on, there will always be a reward awaits us. Allah would never disappoint us, it's we who always disappoint Him.

Till then, xx

Tuhan,
Aku sudah penat
Aku sudah lelah
Aku sudah tidak kuat

Kuatkanku
Tabahkan hatiku
Lapangkan dadaku

Untuk menempuhi dugaan Mu
Untuk menghadapi ujian Mu
Untuk menerima kententuan Mu

Berikan yang terbaik untukku
Jadikan aku orang orang yang reda menerima ketentuan Mu

Sesungguhnya
Kau tidak akan membebaniku dengan sesuatu di luar kemampuanku


لايكلف الله نفساً إلا وسعها
"Allah tidak akan memberati seseorang melainkan apa yang terdaya olehnya."

Ask in an appropriate way

Assalamualaikum!

I believe many of us now have an ask.fm account, where people can ask any questions to us using their own name or be an anonymous. I, too have an ask.fm account which I re-created in April. The old one has been deleted in November last year. The good thing about this social network is 1. people can ask questions about anything, to us. and 2. people who are shy to show themselves, can be an anonymous. But they can still ask questions to us. 

BUT,

The bad side about this thing is, people can send us threats, hates and even ask inappropriate questions. Well, everything has its own pros and cons kan? Betul ke tidak? And since people can opt to be an anon, they tend to ask sensitive questions just to humiliate us, because we can never know who they are. W-wow! It's crazy how this thing works, no? Bayangkan, kita boleh tnya apa apa je kt sesiapa yg ada acc ask.fm ni. Rasa bebas kan???? Haa that's where the negativity comes from... Aiyerrr

If you want to ask anything, ESPECIALLY sensitive questions, you might as well show yourself, so that things like defamation and demeaning won't happen. It's better for you to be true, just tunjukkan diri kita, supaya tak nmpk shady and suspicious kan? I'm pretty sure if you ask nicely, people will tell you what you want to know IF they want to answer. If they don't, jangan pula pegi bash ckp kita ni snobbish lah apa lah. Not everything we can share to people right? Especially bila acc ask.fm tu mmg open to public. Ada masa yang kita can be transparent, and ada masanya kita kena reserve ourselves, just to avoid any fitnah. 

Jadi lepas ni tanyalah dengan berhemah, jgn ada perasaan yang tersinggung. In sha Allah, if we follow our adab on social media, we can get the best of both worlds. Gitu...

Till then, xx

Of last night

                                                      Abang noh, my baby cousin yg tak

                                                              berapa nak baby sangat. He's 3 yrs old.

 My mum with my aunts. 

Yg mcm botak sikit tu pak lang :)

Mama and papa, yang tengah tu abang ajim. He will become a father in a month. 

Baby tu Maryam Arissa, my cousin & noh's little sister. 

The lake view

Some of the pictures I have with my fambam last night. Sorry I can't show all of them. I had a great night out with them last night, Thank you so much, I love you guys so!

PS : Mama and papa teringin sangat nak cucu tu, hahahaha

The Little Things

Assalamualaikum!

Nowadays, we can see from twitter/insta/facebook or other social networks that bashing people and talking bad about people are really common now. And one thing that I don't understand is, people think it's OK to do it, especially in public.

No no no. 

It's not the right way of telling people to stop doing bad things or even changing them to be a better person. Walau sesuci mana pun niat kita, kalau cara kita salah, kita tetap dpt dosa. If we wanna correct someone, we mustn't do it in public because it might humiliate that person. Kita jaga air muka orang, In sha Allah orang jaga air muka kita. Remember, people who correct us in public only intend to humiliate us, BUT people who correct us personally, they really want to do it sincerely. Allah tgk apa kita buat, based on nawaitu kita. Bila kita buat something dengan ikhlas, tanggungjawab kita tu dah selesai. I myself sometime have the urge to do that, PERSONALLY. But when I think of it again and again, I feel scared. Because 1. that person might be offended, WALAUPUN apa yg kita nak cakap tu untuk kebaikan and 2. it might only make things worse, instead of fixing things up. That person may also mistaken what we actually mean and take it as what he/she understands. Faham tak? hehe. That's why sampai skrg, I do feel anxious to say what is in my mind for so long. I notice almost everything, but I'm scared to let it out. 

The next thing is, when people tell you something, advise you on something, take it positively. I'm sure they only want the good for you. A friend will not leave another friend in a bad state, no? Let us take it this way alright? The other day I came across a tweet from a girl, who wears conspicuous clothing and use curse words and etc. She claimed to be struggling with herself to be better. I mean to change herself into a better muslimah. I respect what she said because everyone has their own struggle when it comes to the word 'CHANGE'. Not everyone loves changes. I too had a rough time adapting with the changes I made last 3 years. It's not easy, I know. But when you say you're trying, show the effort that you really are. You know what I mean? Going out with a crop top sampai nampak pusat, skinny jeans and a blonde hair does not show that you are trying. Come on, you definitely know that you haven't even tried anything. That's not what we call trying ok, that's just something unacceptable, for me. If you're really trying, you would put on some decent and loose tops and a more loose jeans or something. Idk, it's just ironic how you say you try to become a better person but you wear something that is so against our religion. This is not about that girl je ok, this is for all girls yg still struggling to cover up.

Well, it's not for me to judge who you are as a person. I myself am nowhere near decent at all. Sometimes I regret what I wear if i wanna go out and sometimes I do feel like turning back home to change my outfit. I am still struggling with myself, because I know, I ain't strong. But from what I see with girls nowadays, they could care less about all this. As long as they pray 5 times a day, it's enough for them to be a good person. Praying is not something you do that you can call yourself pious. No. It's in the pillar of Islam, praying 5 times a day is a must. But little do they know, covering up is a must too, right? It's compulsory for us to cover up anything that is NOT supposed to be shown to the ajnabi. Death doesn't wait for anybody. It comes whenever it desires. Not a second too fast, not a second too late. It all depends on how you want to change it. Sedangkan nasib kita dlm 5 minit lg pun kita tak tahu, apa lg nasib kita dlm masa setahun, dua. To change means you have to take a HUGE step of letting go of your past, and holding on to the future. It's not something you can adapt with very fast, as the saying goes "Rome wasn't build in a day". Everything needs time. 

I love watching 3 ustazah on Astro prima. It really helps me to understand and appreciate islam better. If you want some guidance about being a true muslimah, you can watch all of their videos on youtube or you can go to astro portal. It's that simple. I hope I don't hurt anybody with this post, my real intention is to highlight some of the flaws and defects of girls these days. I'm sorry if I say the wrong things.

Till then, xx

PS : Ya Allah, bring me to ramadan faster. I wanna be in the holy month as soon as possible.

Alhamdulillah, still breathing

Assalamualaikum!

How has your day been? Mine has been good, especially yesterday. Hikhik. So I officially turned 19 yesterday, 7th June 2014. Alhamdulillah I am still able to breathe normally, I am healthy, have enough supply of food and other needs. I am beyond thankful for everything that I have for there are lots of other people out there who are dying to have what I have right now. Syukran Ya Allah.. 

I wanna say thank you to those who wished me with sweet and thoughtful du'as, be it through whatsapp, wechat, twitter, instagram, facebook, face to face or any other ways that you could reach me, I can never be able to repay all the goodness you guys have done. It's amazing when your birthday comes, people who are not even close to you can send you a very sweet wish and prayer. Alhamdulillah... Only Allah can repay that.

So yesterday, my mum's side of the family came over here to have dinner at dad's place in Putrajaya. Actually it's not really his place, but he has been helping a friend running a restaurant for half a year now. The restaurant is still new, it started its operation only in new year, this year and dad has been working there ever since. It's an arabian restaurant, owned by some Yemenian guys and my dad's friend. The best thing about that restaurant is it adapts our Malaysians sense of taste into their recipes and the food are all good! Whenever you're free, do drop by at the restaurant for lunch/dinner because it opens from 11.30 a.m til 11.30 p.m. 

For more info, check out their facebook page and instagram : almaeda_cuisine

Ramadan is coming!

Assalamualaikum everyone!

I hope you guys are enjoying your weekend just like I do, hehe. It's June already, and we are in the month of Syaaban if we look at the Hijriah calendar. Well, ramadan is approaching in less than 3 weeks. Yeke? LEbih kurang lah hihi.

Honestly, I can't wait for this year's ramadan to come because 1. I get to fast one whole month with my family at home and 2. I'll be celebrating Ramadan and Eid at this new house, In sha Allah. Mengikut perancangan, this year's ramadan will be my main target to lose as much weight as I possibly can. I plan to not take so much rice during iftar and sahur. We'll see about that.. I want to lose some weight at least for I get into the University again, for my degree in September. Aaaaand, I expect myself to perform solat terawih every single night, if Allah wills. Kecuali masa uzur lah kan.. amin amin, In sha Allah. Those are the important ones to be done during the whole month of ramadan. Lain lain tu kira amalan biasa lah.

Anyways, in conjunction of Ramadan, let us women cover up our aurah, AT LEAST for the whole month in Ramadan. AT LEAST ok. Kalau Allah bukakan hati untuk terus istiqamah selepas Ramadan, that's even better. But, the least we can do is to try covering up to respect the holy month. Ramadan is for us, remember? This holy month is for us to gain as many pahala and reward as we possibly could, from Him. So why not we grab the chance, since we are still given the chance to breathe. No harm in trying. There's always something better will come from the Almighty, In sha Allah. Allah will not disappoint you, as long as you try to please Him.