Assalamualaikum!
Nowadays, we can see from twitter/insta/facebook or other social networks that bashing people and talking bad about people are really common now. And one thing that I don't understand is, people think it's OK to do it, especially in public.
No no no.
It's not the right way of telling people to stop doing bad things or even changing them to be a better person. Walau sesuci mana pun niat kita, kalau cara kita salah, kita tetap dpt dosa. If we wanna correct someone, we mustn't do it in public because it might humiliate that person. Kita jaga air muka orang, In sha Allah orang jaga air muka kita. Remember, people who correct us in public only intend to humiliate us, BUT people who correct us personally, they really want to do it sincerely. Allah tgk apa kita buat, based on nawaitu kita. Bila kita buat something dengan ikhlas, tanggungjawab kita tu dah selesai. I myself sometime have the urge to do that, PERSONALLY. But when I think of it again and again, I feel scared. Because 1. that person might be offended, WALAUPUN apa yg kita nak cakap tu untuk kebaikan and 2. it might only make things worse, instead of fixing things up. That person may also mistaken what we actually mean and take it as what he/she understands. Faham tak? hehe. That's why sampai skrg, I do feel anxious to say what is in my mind for so long. I notice almost everything, but I'm scared to let it out.
The next thing is, when people tell you something, advise you on something, take it positively. I'm sure they only want the good for you. A friend will not leave another friend in a bad state, no? Let us take it this way alright? The other day I came across a tweet from a girl, who wears conspicuous clothing and use curse words and etc. She claimed to be struggling with herself to be better. I mean to change herself into a better muslimah. I respect what she said because everyone has their own struggle when it comes to the word 'CHANGE'. Not everyone loves changes. I too had a rough time adapting with the changes I made last 3 years. It's not easy, I know. But when you say you're trying, show the effort that you really are. You know what I mean? Going out with a crop top sampai nampak pusat, skinny jeans and a blonde hair does not show that you are trying. Come on, you definitely know that you haven't even tried anything. That's not what we call trying ok, that's just something unacceptable, for me. If you're really trying, you would put on some decent and loose tops and a more loose jeans or something. Idk, it's just ironic how you say you try to become a better person but you wear something that is so against our religion. This is not about that girl je ok, this is for all girls yg still struggling to cover up.
Well, it's not for me to judge who you are as a person. I myself am nowhere near decent at all. Sometimes I regret what I wear if i wanna go out and sometimes I do feel like turning back home to change my outfit. I am still struggling with myself, because I know, I ain't strong. But from what I see with girls nowadays, they could care less about all this. As long as they pray 5 times a day, it's enough for them to be a good person. Praying is not something you do that you can call yourself pious. No. It's in the pillar of Islam, praying 5 times a day is a must. But little do they know, covering up is a must too, right? It's compulsory for us to cover up anything that is NOT supposed to be shown to the ajnabi. Death doesn't wait for anybody. It comes whenever it desires. Not a second too fast, not a second too late. It all depends on how you want to change it. Sedangkan nasib kita dlm 5 minit lg pun kita tak tahu, apa lg nasib kita dlm masa setahun, dua. To change means you have to take a HUGE step of letting go of your past, and holding on to the future. It's not something you can adapt with very fast, as the saying goes "Rome wasn't build in a day". Everything needs time.
I love watching 3 ustazah on Astro prima. It really helps me to understand and appreciate islam better. If you want some guidance about being a true muslimah, you can watch all of their videos on youtube or you can go to astro portal. It's that simple. I hope I don't hurt anybody with this post, my real intention is to highlight some of the flaws and defects of girls these days. I'm sorry if I say the wrong things.
Till then, xx
PS : Ya Allah, bring me to ramadan faster. I wanna be in the holy month as soon as possible.
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